Obituary of Carolyn Adair

Carolyn Weaver Adair Born July 25, 1936- Died June 20, 2018. My Mom was born in Torrington Connecticut (CT) and lived in a town called Harwinton. Her birth name was Carolyn Joan Seegers. Her mom was Sophie (Wesolowski) Seegers. Sophie’s parents came to America from Poland. Mom’s dad was Raymond Seegers whose parents came to America from Germany. Mom is survived by me her daughter and only child, Cherie Weaver age 62, divorced, no children except for fury ones, one cat and five dogs, one of which was mom’s dog Cooper a Boston terrier. Mom was the oldest of four siblings and is survived by them: Her brother Carl Henry (Hank) Seegers age 79, wife Mimi, lives in CT. Hank has three children, Carl Henry married to Karen with a daughter Sydney; Terri, divorced with three children and Mickey with no children. Her sister Brenda Briggs age 73 lives in CT, divorced no children; and sister Sandy Basile age 68, lives in Tucson, AZ, divorced with a daughter Tina Marie married to Eddie Milanesi, lives in CT, no children and a son Richard with 1 son Angelo who lives in Tucson, AZ. To mom, Angelo was the grandchild she never had. Mom was exceptionally smart, a straight A student, and skipped a grade in high school. She graduated from high school with honors at age 16. Because of her academia, a teacher had helped mom secure a scholarship to a Junior College in Pennsylvania, all expenses paid. Unfortunately my mom was not able to go because her dad had died unexpectedly the year before and they were in the middle of building a house. My grandma had to work full time and needed mom to get a job to help with finances, not to mention help with the other kids who were ages 13, 7 and 2. This was my mom’s biggest regret, never attending college and getting her degree. She loved learning things and wanted to know more. She had a mechanical brain and could figure almost anything out. At age 81 she was better at computers then I am! Mom was a numbers person and worked as a bookkeeper or accountant all her life. My mom moved to Tucson in 1955, where two of her Aunts already lived. Mom worked at St Mary’s hospital where I was born in Tucson in September 1955. Mom was a single parent until she met and married Jack Weaver in 1959. This was Jack’s second marriage who had a daughter Sandy from his first marriage. In 1963 Jack started his own decorating business selling carpet and custom draperies. In 1964 Mom left her job and worked in the business taking care of all the accounting, purchasing and payroll. They built up a thriving business and added a bed and bath shop in 1968. They had a one a kind business; there was nothing else like in Tucson at the time. This was long before Bed Bath and Beyond! In 1972 my parents went on vacation to Spain which they loved and brought back great stories and memories. In 1974 they moved in to Park Mall and opened a 7,000 square foot store. They had Bed and Bath and kitchen accessories, the decorating department with carpet, fabric and wallpaper samples, a warehouse, our own workroom to make the drapes and the offices all in the same location. Mom knew how to sew and make drapes too. We had the first computerized cash registers before there were computers like we have today. She wrote the program for them herself. She had the main computer in her office that was about the size of a desk. After Park Mall we opened another store on the northwest side of town and a third store in Green Valley, then a store in Foothills Mall. I grew up in this business learning how to do everything. I had the best education and invaluable experience working with my parents in the business for 20 years. After a 6 month battle Jack died in 1982 from Liver Cancer. A couple of years later we downsized to one store in Crossroads Festival Shopping Center. Mom and I continued running the business until we closed the business in 1989. Mom had remarried in December1984 to Chuck Adair. They met at St Pius Catholic Church in a singles group for divorced and widowed partners. They were married in Sedona, AZ. Chuck was an Engineer who had worked for McDonald Douglas and Hughes Aircraft. He had a pilot’s license and owned his own small plane. Mom took flying lessons and got her pilots license in 1989. This was a great achievement for mom and she loved flying. Mom and Chuck moved to Roswell New Mexico in 1993 and bought a house. Chuck fell off the roof of the house and fractured his pelvic bone. The fall ruptured his spleen which caused an aneurism. About a month later the aneurism traveled to his heart and burst and killed him. Mom continued to live in Roswell for 20 years. She made many friends and was very active in her Church St Peters. Mom bought a different house in Roswell and moved to it in 2000. She went to St Peters church where she sang in the choir, was a lector, a Eucharistic minister, counted the money, sewed alter clothes and the priests robes, helped with funeral services and made many baked goods for bake sales. She also sang in a separate accapello (sp) choir and they were fantastic! In 2004 mom received her Certificate for completing the 3 year course of Pastoral Ministries Studies. Mom worked for Lend a Hand for 10 years, an organization that helped people that needed food, clothes, help paying a bill, or a bus ticket somewhere. She became the director their and learned how to apply for and to write grants. After Lend a Hand, she worked for a car dealership, and Colony House furniture store doing their accounting. At tax time she worked for H & R Block doing peoples taxes and did many friends taxes. In 2013 she sold her house and moved back to Tucson AZ. I sold my small house and bought a bigger house and land where we could live together with our 5 dogs and 1 cat. Mom still had the commercial sewing machines from our decorating business which moved with her. Mom made all the drapes for our new house and re-upholstered one chair and was in the middle of re-upholstering another chair. Mom loved to garden and planted a vegetable garden from which we enjoyed fresh vegetables. We also have many flowers in the yard and in pots on the patios. On a visit to Tucson before she moved back, Mom found Corpus Christi Catholic Church and felt at home here. After moving back she joined Corpus Christi and became a Eucharistic Minister and Lector as she had done in Roswell. I went with Mom and felt at home and joined as well. She encouraged me to be a lector and Eucharistic minister too. We both helped with the youth group. Mom was a sponsor for RCIA, for people who want to convert to becoming a Catholic. Mom taught third grade religious education and loved teaching her kids. Mom also volunteered to help in the office and the Mardi Gras Auction. Mom and I had season’s tickets to Gaslight Theater and enjoyed going to these and other plays. Mom enjoyed playing cards and reading and had her favorite TV shows. Mom brought me up right with discipline and manners and in the Catholic religion. She was strong in her faith and loved the Lord. She made sure I was baptized, had my first holy communion, was confirmed and went to Catechism classes. Mom could have a temper and I was in trouble a lot but her anger was over quickly and an hour later everything was OK. I am so glad she brought me up the way she did as it made me a better person. She was always there for me and supported me in what I did and taught me so much. I think my Mom accomplished a lot in her life and overcame many obstacles. She taught we coping skills and how to handle life. She was my Mom and my Dad to me in many ways. I am so very proud of my Mom. She was everything to me, She was my hero. She will be dearly missed by her family, and all who knew her.